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ParentWise

ParentWise Book

Parents often lament that kids don’t come through the birth canal with instructions securely fastened to their big toes. In the quiet solitude of night they wonder, why didn’’t anybody tell me what this was going to be like? With the knowledge of a seasoned psychotherapist, the wisdom that comes with thirty years of marriage,and raising two kids to adulthood,Loren Buckner adds a uniquely qualified voice to the parenting discussion.

ParentWise: The Emotional Challenges Of Family Life And How To Deal With Them is an intimate conversation about the emotional turmoil of parenting.” Chapters on guilt, worry, sadness, disappointment, and anger help parents accept their darker emotions, ones they haven’t known how to talk about. Parents will not only find comfort in what Loren has to say, they’ll discover a better parent within themselves.

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Ezine Articles

There's no getting around the fact that divorce shakes life up. To one degree or another guilt, loss, sadness, anger, and disappointment will stream through the family. Rather than defending or explaining their decision, it's more important for parents to understand their children and what the divorce means to them. This approach teaches kids that trying times can be managed and that difficult feelings can be expressed, understood, and managed too.
Posted: October 10, 2013, 3:26 pm
Spanking is a controversial subject. Parents either strongly favor this sort of discipline, or they strongly oppose it. Of course, all parents from time to time lose their cool. However, hitting is a failure to cope with anger and express feelings in a more appropriate way.
Posted: June 3, 2013, 7:16 pm
Whether the tantrum begins in the supermarket and you feel like everyone's eyes are on you, or you're in the privacy of your home, temper tantrums are always frustrating and they're often infuriating. So parents wonder, "What am I supposed to do when my child is having a tantrum?"
Posted: March 28, 2012, 2:35 pm
Many children will have fewer gifts this holiday season than in previous years. This financial reality provides mothers and fathers with the perfect opportunity to ponder the meaning money has played in their life and to consider what they would like to teach their children about it. The best way to educate kids about the significance of money is for parents to understand their own feelings first.
Posted: November 18, 2011, 1:15 pm
The Casey Anthony trial has prompted tremendous curiosity. Stories about her apparent lack of concern over Caylee's disappearance inflamed our sensibilities and led people to judge her - just what kind of mother behaves this way?
Posted: June 2, 2011, 6:39 pm
Sooner than you think, your children become teenagers. Adolescence tends to feel like a roller coaster; the kind that takes your breath away with its never-ending twists and turns. The ups and downs can be very steep, and the curves knock you around. Emotions run high, and the stakes are higher. It's one thing to imagine what you'll be getting into when kids become teenagers, experiencing the reality of it is something else altogether. Why is adolescence so difficult?
Posted: September 30, 2010, 4:17 pm
Children often alter a couple's sexual relationship. You may feel so immersed in your babies and children that it's difficult to switch your mind and body out of mommy mode. The physical, emotional, and psychological demands of motherhood frequently make it difficult to re-discover the sexual part of yourself.
Posted: September 9, 2010, 2:54 pm
The stress of juggling the complications of work and family life are a source of guilt for many women. Whether you work outside the home or are a stay-at-home mom, there are troubling emotions to deal with. Either choice leaves you with something to worry about.
Posted: September 2, 2010, 11:00 pm
Joy and excitement await you the moment a planned pregnancy or an adoption become a reality. It doesn't take very long, though, for happiness to be laced with worry. "How will I manage? Will the baby have ten fingers and ten toes? Will the birth go as planned?
Posted: August 12, 2010, 9:13 pm
In the beginning of a relationship, and before children are born, it's fairly easy to accommodate to one another and feel good about doing so. People can cover up their real feelings for quite some time. Initially, giving in to sidestep an argument doesn't feel like too much to ask of yourself.
Posted: August 5, 2010, 6:14 pm
One day moms feel like the luckiest people in the world. The next day they wonder if they'll survive. Even though they may sometimes buckle under the weight of parenthood, experiencing their children's independence isn't easy either - along with the freedom come feelings of worry, sadness, and loss.
Posted: July 23, 2010, 5:47 pm
Dealing with the challenges of parenthood while you unconditionally love your children sounds like the perfect combination. Actually, with unconditional love in place, you don't have to be perfect. You have to be "good-enough".
Posted: July 14, 2010, 4:38 pm
Since childhood was so long ago, it's tempting to think that whatever happened back then no longer matters. Many people believe that they should "just get over" anything unpleasant that happened when they were young. Actually, though, childhood experiences become part of who you are as an adult.
Posted: July 1, 2010, 2:39 pm
At its best, parenthood calls for an ability to love unconditionally. To love children regardless of what they say or do takes maturity, selflessness, and commitment. Why is unconditional love so important?
Posted: June 23, 2010, 3:12 pm
Raising kids is far more difficult that parents ever imagine. The intensity of emotions and the unrelenting responsibilities rock parents to their core.
Posted: June 22, 2010, 2:31 pm
Better informed than ever before, parents have tremendous responsibility. They are trying their best to take care of their kids, their jobs, and their relationships. Since completing to-do lists is virtually impossible, guilt inevitably trickles down the spine of most conscientious parents and is an emotion most mothers and fathers are intimately familiar with. Looking at guilt from a new perspective, this article helps parents understand why they feel so guilty and then explains what they can do about it.
Posted: June 11, 2010, 9:47 pm